One of the sure ways to give your lady the satisfaction she deserves in your relationship is eating her out.
Cunnilingus, going south, giving her a head, or as some guys crudely put “licking a vagina” is an art that needs to be perfected and an experience a lady deserves.
Cunnilingus (language between a lady’s vagina lips and her partner’s lips) has been around for a long time and widely practiced by different races over the years.
Aside from its health benefits, it is one of the easiest ways to give a lady the elusive orgasm she may never get from penetration
Since you are interested in learning this awesome language in order to become a great cunnilinguist and serve her well, pay attention to the steps and tips below.
Before you start though, note that every woman is different and communication is vital. Understanding her is the key to pulling this off successfully.
Have your fingernails well-trimmed (you will be needing those fingers for the job), make sure there are no beard stubs (nobody wants sandpaper up their crotch), and make sure your apartment is tidy.
Table of Contents
- Steps to Blowing Cunnilingus
- Step 1: Get Her Comfortable and Initiate Foreplay
- Step 2: Getting into the act
- Step 3: Food is Ready, Let’s Eat
- Step 4: Fingers of Pleasure
- Step 5: Take the Size of the Clitoris into consideration
- Step 6: Consistency is key, Don’t Stop
- Step 7: Just don’t stop till she tells you to or pushes you away.
- Some Tips on how to give the best Cunnilingus
- Things to avoid before and during cunnilingus
Steps to Blowing Cunnilingus
These are the seven steps to follow when you want to eat her out.
Step 1: Get Her Comfortable and Initiate Foreplay
Reading a lady’s mood is one of the basic steps when it comes to going down. If she isn’t in the mood, please don’t try to give her head as you may definitely have a hard time down there except she has a change of mind.
Remember, consent is key. Maybe she is feeling dirty down there or on her time of the month. Not every lady enjoys oral sex.
If she is comfortable with you going down south, do not hurriedly head down. Unlike men, women are not switches and will require foreplay to gradually turn them on till they are super horny.
Take a deep breath, give her a massage, play some cool music, kisses, grab her bum, rubbing her crotch when she still got her knickers on, kiss her neck, compliment her, trail kisses from her lips to her neck to her breast, etc. Some women may like it faster and direct, just do whatever helps her relax and turns her on.
Step 2: Getting into the act
If her clothes are still on at the point, gently and slowly undress her, it may look like a chore but ladies to appreciate it when the guy takes up the option of undressing them.
Trace your way from her breast down to her navel and down south but don’t attack directly. The Golden rule is never to start with the clitoris, kiss along her thighs, while your hands roam, and just when you get to the clit, gently blow warm air on it and skip past it to this other side of her thighs.
When you get up there again, kiss around the vagina, kiss the pussy lips, little love bites here and there (not all of them love it though, and please DON’T BITE THE VAGINA ? remember to communicate).
Lick from the vagina opening to the bottom of her clit and flick your tongue past the clitoris, (if you don’t know what a clitoris is, have her show you) at this point she should be ready.
Step 3: Food is Ready, Let’s Eat
Forget all the nonsense you see in pornography where those guys stick out their tongues, stop to ask the lady if she is enjoying it, smack the vagina, etc., those are professional actors being paid to look like they are enjoying it.
Slowly and gently lick the clit, keep your mouth and your tongue there. Some people recommend drawing ABC on it, but I would recommend the zigzag. Start like a butterfly, light pressure as too much pressure can ruin everything. Watch out for her moans, they will tell you if you are doing it right.
Keep the pace steady. If she wants more pressure, she will likely gyrate her waist to get the amount she needs. Don’t be surprised if she grabs your head and keeps it there. Remember, never remove your mouth from the clit, I repeat don’t stop till she asks you to.
Step 4: Fingers of Pleasure
Now, your hands should be part of the fun. While your mouth is on her clit, trace your index finger to her vagina (see why I told you to cut those nails), insert it in slowly (about 2 inches), and gently pull the vagina down, this makes the vagina feels like there is a penis in it and the brain sends more blood to the walls to heighten sensitivity.
The G-Spot should be swelling by now. Turn your index finger up and make the “come sign” with it (just like you beckoning at someone). Continue making the come sign while still licking the clitoris. If she is into it, her reaction will increase.
You may need to use two fingers sometimes. When you choose to use two fingers to stimulate her, do not turn the fingers while they are still inside her vagina. You are trying to give her pleasure not tear her vaginal walls.
Remove the fingers a little and turn it up before you insert them it again (2 inches remember) and start making the come sign.
If she isn’t into it, she will push your hand away. Your other hand should be exploring her body, there are the boobs, grab them, rub the nipple, run your hands all over her body. A nice tongue + good fingering + a moving hand = weapon of mass orgasm.
Step 5: Take the Size of the Clitoris into consideration
The size of the clitoris varies like the size of the penis, if she has a larger clitoris; she may need a little bit more pressure and possibly want your tongue exploring all around her ultimate pleasure spot. If it is smaller, she may not need that much pressure.
Some women love having the clitoris sucked, others just love you licking, some may want more pressure with your tongue spread over the whole vagina and clit, others want nothing more than the tip of your tongue on the clit since they are super sensitive.
Same way, remember every time you go down there, there will be a different reaction. You just have to vary your technique and watch out for their moans.
Step 6: Consistency is key, Don’t Stop
Just to tell you how important this is, consistency matters a lot. Keep the same rhythm and speed as she communicates with you. Most times it will be nonverbal communication.
When she squirms or bites her lip, moans or groans, grabs your head and moves her hips, or maybe grabs the bedsheets, or starts saying things like “fuuuuuck”, there, you are doing it right.
Keep up with the same pace and rhythm, don’t be tempted to go fast or slow. The reason is that women love to focus on where the pleasure is coming from. The steady tempo allows her to build her orgasm step by step.
Go too fast and everything will go back to zero, and you will ruin her orgasm. Does she want more pressure? She will mostly move her hips to get it or tell you to apply more.
Watch out for the key reaction when she loves it. It is mostly a sigh followed by her say “right there.”
Step 7: Just don’t stop till she tells you to or pushes you away.
This is the simplest. At the end of the day, if you do it right, she will get an orgasm, and she wouldn’t be able to walk for the next 30 minutes or so.
Here you can just get her water to drink or leave her to sleep.
If she is willing, you can get a lazy blowjob, but her vagina is off limits since it is over-sensitive.
Some Tips on how to give the best Cunnilingus
In order to perfect the act and do it better, here are a few tips.
1. You are either cleanly shaven or having full soft bushy beards. Never go down on a lady with your short stubble sandpaper beards. It hurts and burns
2. Compliment her vagina: “wow, now this smells like roses.” Women most times feel insecure. Complimenting her vagina is a sure way to get her relaxed.
As for the smell, a vagina doesn’t have any particular smell, it all depends on her, hormones, soaps, lotions, and the weather. But it is not supposed to stink or smell offensive. if it doesn’t smell healthy, it is not healthy.
3. Ask her to guide you, tell you how she loves it, and do just that. Figuring a woman out is hard, why is waste time fumbling when she can guide you?
4. Learn breathing techniques: Just as a woman will learn to breathe with a dick in her mouth, you have to learn how to breathe with your mouth on her pussy. The organ for breathing is the nose, not the mouth, use it.
5. Skip foreplay, and you will spend more time down there. This will generally lead to neck pains and jaw cramps. Spend more time getting her ready, and you can avoid all those troubles.
6. Be consistent: Don’t try to rush the whole thing and spoil the whole thing. You are not trying to prove any point. Just relax. If she is having a harder time getting over the edge, you may increase the speed and pressure a little and when you do, keep it steady there. Don’t stop until she is finished.
7. Hands and fingers are involved, unless she doesn’t like it. Get a manicure, keep those nails well-groomed and clean, always. You never know when you will need them.
8. Communication: If she isn’t communicating, it will be hard. Ask her to help you out and direct you. Though a woman will rarely tell you what she wants and will instead give you clues. If she doesn’t give any directions or clues maybe she is clearly not in the mood.
9. Be adventurous: The bedroom or sitting room is a place for adventure. You can blindfold her before the act. This makes her use her other senses (which is good for both of you). Also, it doesn’t always have to be the missionary position, try something else. Use toys if you have them.
10. The clit is your mission, your target, your focus. While it is good to focus on other parts till you get there, once you get it, lock on with your tongue and don’t move anywhere else. Love it. Be passionate about it
Things to avoid before and during cunnilingus
1. Unhealthy environment, long and dirty nails. They are huge turn-offs.
2. So as a guy, you are getting a blowjob but her teeth, scraping all the flesh, and feels like your skin is about to peel. Isn’t awesome, right? Yeah, same way to keep your teeth off her clit and vagina. I did mention “little bites here and there above”, but i never said on her pussy.
3. Once you are down there, you are not allowed to talk, dirty talking is for her and her only. Honestly, the only conversation your mouth should be having is with her clit. Don’t go too fast. Don’t even go fast and don’t stick your tongue in, please.
Conclusion
The reason a lot of guys suck at eating pussy is that they are afraid of messing up. Whether you hate eating a vagina or not, this is something you have to learn, you just have to deal with it if you want a healthy sex life.
If you just don’t like it, you might as well stop asking for a blowjob and pray she doesn’t find someone else who will go down on her. The vagina doesn’t have teeth, it won’t bite you. If she does find someone else, be prepared to let go.
Good cunnilingus can keep a woman. All the same, be safety conscious as you lick your way to the bottom of her heart and fantasies.
