Sexting: How to Turn Your Partner on via Messages?


Sexting has been the up-to-the-minute thing since the birth of smartphones and other mobile devices that promote easy communication.

No doubt, sexting can be a pretty hot way to get to know someone you’re interested in and learn many things about what turns them on both at a safe distance and a slow but steady pace.

If you are still brand new to the world of sexting, then this article will hold your hands through the learning process.

Because of the advent of dating apps and many hook-up pages and groups online, sexting will likely be one of the few or first ways you will begin flirting with someone new.

But then, sexting isn’t only for new relationships; it can also be a method of spicing up an already existing relationship, or just a means to keep the juices flowing during long-distance relationships or between dates.

According to a study carried out by the American Psychological Association, it has been discovered that sexting behavior is popular among American adults, with as much as 82.20% of adults reporting sexting within the last 12 months.

Should you begin slowly? Should you launch into the raunch like it’s now or never? How do you know the best way to approach a new love interest or sexting buddy?

What about where you can find sexting examples to serve as an inspiration for some of your own? You might be thinking that to be great at sexting, you must have a pretty rich imagination as well as a juicy sexual lexicon.

Funny! You can rest assured, it is that complicated. Things are as comfortable as actually saying, “Hey, I’m into you.” I am just kidding.

The first thing you need to do when you begin to sext with a person you recently met is to make sure the both of you are into it. The best way to figure that out is to ask. Below are some easy sexting examples to kick start the party:

“I have been thinking a lot about you lately. Do you mind if I share one of the many naughty fantasies I had?”

“I was in the shower and thought to take a naked selfie. I think I kind of look cute in it. Wanna see?”

“I miss you. If you don’t mind, I’d love it if you sent me something naughty. Anything at all.”

If your love interest or sexting partner proves to be eager, go can go for it! Once you get a green light, that’s a sign to go-ahead. Below are some popular sexting frameworks and examples to get you up and going.

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First, let us break down sexting into many different styles:

  • Fantasy
  • Flirtation
  • Memory
  • Tasks/Requests

The four categories of sexting we have mentioned are the main ones, and they are specially designed to inspire you to come up with some good sexting examples by yourself.

‍The Flirty Sexting Examples

I know what you’re probably thinking. How do you flirt-sext with a total stranger? Take a deep breath and let things happen naturally.

Flirtation is a perfect way for you to get to know someone you newly met, though flirtation can also be a fantastic way to introduce sexting into a relationship that already exists too.

When flirting via text, the tone you choose to use can be both coy and playful. Instead of describing a particular scene or fantasy that has been in your head for days, it can be quite interesting to play with innuendo.

Also, it is a great idea, to begin with, questions and natural compliments. Below are some Flirtation-style examples for sexting:

“I love your profile picture. It makes you look hot, but it also looks like you are keeping a secret.

“I had an unusual dream about you a few nights ago. It’s been replaying in my head for a while, would you like to hear about it?”

“ Hey, been thinking about you, and it makes me feel kinda warm and tingly. I badly want to see you again soon.”

By now, you may have noticed that this style of sexting isn’t precisely about sex. Instead, it is a way to test the waters of sexting, and quickly gauge where your sexting partner is at. Here are some extra flirtation-style sexting samples for you:

“I’m in bed right now. Would you like to give me something to dwell on as I fall asleep?”

“Thanks for sending a voicemail. Oh damn, your voice drives me wild.”

“ Hey, I’m super excited for our next date. I know it’s only a week away, but I can’t wait to see you again. I’m having fun right now, trying to decide what kind of underwear to put on.”

“You really have me figured out, and know how to talk to me, I like it. Do you know what I can’t wait for? finding out how you’d touch me, too.”

‍The Flirtation style of sexting can definitely escalate into some more explicit sexting styles. If you want, it can also stay quite light and sweet, just for the sake of baby steps.

The key is both you and your partner to be on the same page when it comes to what feels exciting and comfortable.


Fantasy Sexting Samples

Fantasy-style sexting is one of the exciting sexting styles. It is all about telling a story or collaborating with your partner on a shared scene.

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The cool thing about fantasies is that they are an excellent way to assess a person’s desires and tastes, while also learning about the things they don’t like. Here is a fantastic formula for fantasy sexting:

Gauge Interest

To gauge your partner’s interest, start by sharing a sexy thought. You could try a setting, a scenario, or an action. Ask them what the scene makes them think about.

Mild Fantasy Sexting sample you can try

Here are a couple of fantasy sexting examples using the framework I have provided above:

A: Hey, can I tell you what I’d love to do with you when next we get together?

B: Hi, Sure.

A: So, I bought a massage oil that smells amazing. All I want to do with it is lay you down right in front of the fireplace and help you relax with a full body massage. Tell me, How does that sound?

B: Sounds great.

A: So, what else would you want me to do to you while at it?

‍Wild Fantasy Sexting sample

Or you can try this other sexting example. It is more explicit and would have a lady dripping in a second:

A: “Hey, hotty, I can’t wait to have a taste of you again.”

B: “Oh, really?”

A: “Yes. I want to slowly bend you over, touch you slowly and eat you out silly from behind.”

B: “I badly want your sweetness to run down my chest as you close your eyes, buck, and moan. Wanna tell me what you want me to do to you?”

You also have a chance to play with creating entire scenarios. Below is a sexting example that creates a whole scene:

A: So, I’ve been imagining going with you to a glamorous sex party.

B: Wanna tell me about it?

A: You’ll put on that lovely outfit you wore the last time we went on a date. You looked so sexy in that dress. When we arrive at the party in an expensive mansion in the hills, we will walk in, and all heads will turn to admire just how lovely we look together. I’ll wander the rooms with you in search of a hot third person to pull into our scene. The third-party will ask us what we want to do. Here’s the part where you tell me what you will say?

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Fantasy style is super sexy, but it can be the most difficult for some people to get the hang of because it can indeed feel very vulnerable to expose so much of a person’s sexual psyche to someone else.

It can be a great idea to ask your partner for positive reinforcement, by asking them questions such as “Is there something you’d like better?” or “Do you like this?”

‍Memory Sexting Samples

Memory style sexting is the best for established stronger relationships where there is already a sexual history for you to pull inspiration from.

Inspiration can be as simple as remembering a hot experience you both shared. Here are some examples of sexting that you can draw from the shared sexual history you share.

A: Remember that trip to Vegas?

B: I can’t forget that trip.

A: You looked hot and sexy as you held me on the balcony while we watched the sunset. It was beautiful, and I wanted you so badly I thought I could burst.


A: Thanks for the fantastic sex last night.

B: Wanna tell me what was your favorite part of it?

A: Probably the part where you pulled my hair gently just before you came.

‍Task/Request Sexting samples

Finally, there is the Task/Request sexting pattern. This is especially good for people who love to play with power-dynamics when it comes to sex, or people who are generally service-oriented. The tone you use here is based on how your partner likes to hear or share commands.

A: Hey, love, would you like to do something for me right now to put a smile on my face?

B: Yes, I’d love to.

A: I want to call you on video and watch you jerk off right now, and afterward I want you to tell me exactly what you think of when you squirt or come.


A: Go to the bathroom at the office and send me a pic of your sexy ass.


A: Hey, did you receive the package I sent you?

B: Yes, I did.

A: I want you to get comfortable and put them on. When you’re done, send me a hot selfie.

Sexting is a chance to be flirtatious and playful while taking your time to communicate your likes/dislikes, expectations, and desires. Have fun with the experience, play with any of the sexting samples your find interesting, and don’t be afraid to go for what you want.

Let us know what you think. We welcome your questions and suggestions as well.

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