Is your submissive being a spoilt little brat? Are you noticing some unwanted behavior? Do not be dismayed.
Sometimes subs can be naughty, and the best way to get them to act right is discipline.
Many couples fans of kinky sex make discipline a routine to keep bad behavior in check, so if you are a beginner, I want you to know that it’s a very healthy thing.
However, you have to know what works best for you and your partner, as some BDSM punishments might be too harsh for your partner.
For many Doms, discipline is the watchword and foundation of their relationships. The purpose is to train the submissive and reward them when they do something useful.
If you are a dom, and you need new ideas on punishments for your sub, or you are a sub who thinks your dom could use some new skills, then this article was written primarily for you.
Note that punishments must appropriately fit the crime of your sub so that the right message is communicated and the lesson is learned.
Before we go-ahead to explore the different punishment ideas, there are a few things you should know.
Table of Contents
- 1. BDSM Contract
- 2. The punishment should always fit the crime
- 3. Identify your sub’s limit
- 4. No Surprises
- 5. Aftercare
- 6. Pain and Math
- 7. Physical bondage
- 8. Kneeling or grains
- 9. Orgasm control
- 10. Pointless chores and butt plugs
1. BDSM Contract
If you are going into a BDSM relationship, you need to outline all the punishments for different offenses in a contract, or you can choose to make it unofficial by discussing the rules with your submissive instead of putting them on paper.
Note that the Sub has to agree to the punishments you suggest before you can carry them out. Without an agreement, no penalty is valid when it comes to a BDSM relationship.
Also, being in a BDSM relationship doesn’t necessarily mean there has to be punishment involved. You could focus on pleasure and bondage.
2. The punishment should always fit the crime
In BDSM, when we talk about crime or sin, we do not mean actual criminal activities. Delinquency refers to breaking some laid down relationship rules, naughty behavior, or an infraction. It is essential to know how to match discipline to error.
A minor error should attract a light punishment, and a severe infringement should draw a stricter sentence. BDSM punishments should be seen as similar to correcting a child.
You try to teach a lesson, but you do it in the least harmful way possible.
If you find it hard to pick a punishment that best suits a sin, you might end up punishing your sub in anger and killing the fun.
It is alright to take some time to think about the right form of discipline to use on your sub so that you do not end up overdoing things.
Never punish when you are angry; if you do, you might hurt your sub and end up regretting instead of enjoying the process.
3. Identify your sub’s limit
When it comes to picking a punishment for your sub, make sure to choose a feasible task. You are not looking to frustrate your sub with some discipline that can’t be finished.
If your submissive has a medical condition that certain kinds of punishment might trigger, make sure not to put them in such a position.
Causing life-threatening pain to a submissive is not the purpose of BDSM, so beware of the kind of punishments you pick. Penalties that cause dehydration cuts off blood circulation and tampers with breathing should be avoided.
Never push your sub to their limits with punishment. Your sub might want to please you and decide to go ahead with the sentence, but you might be destroying the trust they have in you.
Knowing Your limit too is vital. Do not go through with such a penalty if your conscience doesn’t allow you to give specific punishments.
4. No Surprises
A surprise discipline is not acceptable in BDSM. All punishments are thought out and done on purpose, so you don’t just wake up and punish a sub for no reason.
If you feel your submissive has done something they shouldn’t do, give them a chance to explain.
That way, your sub knows what they did wrong and can prepare for the penalty that follows. Timing is also critical when it comes to punishing a submissive.
You don’t want them to feel they got away with an offense, and then you punish them when they least expect it. Let the punishment for a crime be timely so it can be effective in correcting the sub.
5. Aftercare
After a BDSM session, take care of your submissive so that they feel loved and cared for. Use ointment to treat areas that were spanked; give your submissive a drink to refresh them.
A warm bath with a little bit of romance and cuddling afterward is excellent for emotional and physical recovery. A relationship without care and love defeats the purpose of togetherness.
Now that you have known the basics, let us look at the ideas for BDSM punishments.
6. Pain and Math
Spanking or slapping a submissive with BDSM impact tools is a popular way of instilling discipline. In the absence of slapping tools, a dom can spank with the palm of his hands, and it would still be fun.
Have your sub count the strokes when you cane them. Math and pain are lovely combinations when it comes to punishment. The more the strokes, the harder it becomes for your submissive to keep up with counting.
7. Physical bondage
Tie up your submissive while they are kneeling and gently stick your finger into the vagina and tease.
You can have a submissive perch with a book on his or her head. If you feel bold, get a wide enough cage to size a person and lock your submissive in it ( that’s very extreme, so you might want to skip it ).
8. Kneeling or grains
Uncooked rice and other grains are lovely for punishment. Have your sub kneel on uncooked rice grains in the face-down ass-up position. Light a scented candle and drop melted wax on your sub’s ass.
Have some ice handy so that you can lose some of it on the top of your sub’s ass line and let it melt and run down to his or her anus.
You can also have your submissive lay back down on the rice grains while you use nipple clamps on them.
9. Orgasm control
(Use a chastity belt) Denying your submissive of orgasm or controlling when they have orgasms is an excellent punishment tactic.
When you are in charge of when and how your sub gets an orgasm, it is easy to catch them trying to violate the rules by trying to touch themselves.
10. Pointless chores and butt plugs
Your submissive should refold all the towels or do a chore they hate while you insert and pull out a butt plug from their anus. You can also penetrate them with a dildo or vibrator while doing the chore, and they must make no mistakes.
This forces a submissive to try to balance concentration and pleasure. Also, it is a great way to control or force orgasms.
There are a thousand other kinky sex ideas but have it in mind that roles can be switched, so if you want to be treated nicely when you become the sub, threat your sub nicely when you are the dom.
Other Kinky sex tips will be coming up subsequently, so stay alert.
