A lot of men worry about reaching orgasm too quickly. For a lot of reasons, lasting long during sexual intercourse has become vital to both sexually active men and their partners.
The question you might want to ask is what exactly makes a man ejaculate early?
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Work on your masturbation habits
Whether we like it or not your masturbation habit has a strong influence on what your partner’s sex would feel like.
A lot of men who masturbate do not know this however if you are looking to last longer during partnered sex it is advisable that you check what your masturbation routine and habits have been.
However, there are few things to put into consideration when masturbating.
1. How long do you masturbate?
A lot of men masturbate in a hurry with the purpose of getting the job done as quickly as possible. Sometimes this habit could stem from the childhood behaviour of masturbating in a rush so that you don’t get caught by parents or other older adults around.
If you’re one of the people who engage in this utilitarian experience, what you might not have noticed is that masturbating in a hurry conditions your body to ejaculate as quickly as possible.
So when you participate in partnered sex it becomes like a default setting for you to burst as soon as your body feels the need to, no matter how hard you try to hold it back in.
It is possible to return your body to last longer you can do this by trying to draw out your masturbation sessions and see if you can make them last longer.
The trick to masturbating for long before spilling the milk is to mentally picture how long you would want to last when you’re having partnered sex.
Whenever it’s almost time for you to ejaculate during masturbation, try to reduce the level of pleasure and then take it back up by the time you do this repeatedly it will make it easier for you to last longer when you’re having sex with someone else.
2. How focused are you on reaching orgasm?
When you engage in masturbation, how focused are you and reaching orgasm as fast as possible? Most utilitarian masturbators train their body to take a one-way street to orgasm town.
This prevents you from enjoying the actual pleasures of sex before you pop.
Introducing some Degree of teasing into your masturbation practice could help you last longer both during self-pleasure and partners sex.
To add some teasing to your routine, what you have to do is stroke yourself and get to the number 8 level of satisfaction then bring it all the way down to a number 5 and up to a number 7 and back to a number 2, up to a number 6 down to a number 3 and so on.
It must not necessarily be in this order, but the point is to identify your point of no return, and before you reach it to reduce the level of pleasure so you can last longer.
It takes a lot of practice to identify your point of no return but once you can spot it during masturbation, when it comes to partnered sex you can easily tell when you’re about to get to that point then you can reduce the pace of your thrust and get back enough motivation to continue for long before you ejaculate.
3. Pay attention to what happens to your body before orgasm
When you’re always focused on reaching orgasm during sex or masturbation, you pay less attention to what happens to your body in the process of time before you achieve your aim.
Now if you are one of those persons who want to identify their point of no return, it is required that you pay more attention to your bodily response before you reach orgasm. Before you reach the point where you ejaculate, there are certain things that you might experience.
Maybe a shocking sensation or a slight pain, Whatever the feeling is, once you can identify this, it helps you to know when to reduce your pace and when to increase it or even focus on making out to distract yourself before you finally pop.
4. Give porn a break
No doubt watching porn can be very healthy for your sex life, But when you engage in viewing pornography while pleasuring yourself, there is an automatic disconnect between you and your arousal process.
What pornography does is take your attention from your body and focus it on people engaging in sexual activities right in front of you.
While this is quite good at making you aroused and reaching orgasm you do not pay attention to the entire process before you eventually pop.
Taking a hiatus from pornography during masturbation helps you to monitor the process between arousal and ejaculation which is a great way to extend the duration of your episodes.
5. Manage Anxiety
Poor sexual performance can lead to anxiety problems this is a fact. But focusing on this anxiety would only make your performance worse. So what do you do when the fear sets it?
Well, this might sound not so sexy, but it would be only fair if you can practice at least 10 to 15 minutes daily of meditation so you can last longer.
You can also engage in mindfulness practice while masturbating or having sex with your partner this is not something you should be doing for a very long time if you get it right the first few times.
6. Pleasuring your partner should be a goal
A lot of men think that penetration is all that there is to sex but there is actually a lot more than you are not exploring.
You can pleasure your partner (that is if you’re having sex with a woman) with your fingers and your mouth in so many other ways when you focus more on foreplay and other forms of sexual activities.
Performing oral sex on your female sex partner could help her reach orgasm even faster than you. This way, you can boost your self-confidence because, by the time you penetrate vaginally, she would be more than halfway close to her point of no return.
Before you finally ejaculate, fingering can also help stimulate her and pitch her closer to reaching orgasm so the both of you can release the load at the same time.
7. Avoid numbing sprays and creams
Products that help to numb your penis during sex are unhealthy and not advisable because they prevent you from enjoying the pleasures of sex.
Yes, you might last longer, but they do not help to solve the underlying problems. It is better to engage in activities that will help you last longer than use these products. Also, watch the kind of foods that you eat as they contribute to your sexual activity or inactivity.
