You might have heard about flirting, sex, foreplay, and other things that adults do to people they are interested in (in a romantic sense), but there is a 99.9 chance you have no idea there exists such a thing as eye fucking.
Indeed, we as humans know that our eyes (asides helping us see) play a vital role in the communication process, making it one of the most critical parts of our bodies.
When it comes to romance, the eyes are equally active. That is why you hear things like “love at first sight”, or you hear people say things like “She had inviting eyes, I just could not resist”.
Besides this, every relationship begins with that stare, but there is a different stare that is a language people use to communicate their sexual and romantic attractions to others, we call that language “Eye Fucking”.
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What is Eye fucking?
People do not believe there is such a thing as eye fucking, but the fact remains if you haven’t experienced it, you might not think it is real. You probably have engaged in the art and not even know what it’s called.
As the name implies, Eye fucking involves giving a gazing at someone in a manner that communicates to them that you are physically and sexually attracted to them and that you intend to try your chances to turn that eye-sex to physical sex.
For some people, they go ahead to approach their target and start a conversation, for others, they just sit back and relax to see if their target would indulge them and enjoy the long distance imaginary sex that involves only the use of the eyes.
Before we go further into discussing the art of Eye fucking, there are certain necessary things you need to know. Like the difference between ogling and eye fucking.
To make the distinction clear, eye fucking is more complicated and carries with it an intention that is far different from what goes on in your mind when ogling at someone.
Yes, you might gaze at a person because you are sexually attracted to them, but you cannot expect them to ogle back because the both of you are going to look stupid.
When you are eye-fucking, you focus mainly on the eyes of your target and not stare at them from head to toe over and over like you have some dumb or evil intention.
When you are ogling, you make it visible that your focus is not on the whole person but certain parts of the person’s body. For ladies, it is usually the boobs and ass that get the attention of oglers.
And for guys, it’s usually, the chest, arms, or even they penis when they come out of a pool.
On the other hand, Eye fucking is focused on the entire person; it shows that you are interested in them and not their goods only. It is possible to stray a little and look at some desirable areas of the other person’s body but that look only lasts a few seconds, and your focus goes back to the person’s eyes.
How to Eye Fuck and Not Look like a Creep in The Process?
Eye fucking is very tricky, and that’s the first thing you should have at the back of your mind.
Most people do not know eye fucking is a medium of communication so they may get suspicious of you and react the same way they would to a person who is creeping them out.
Knowing there is a risk of being misunderstood, you just might want to tread carefully.
However, if you are feeling bold and confident that you’ll get some positive result from eye fucking, then the first thing to do is to try to avoid shyness, yet try not to be too invasive with your stare.
Steps to eye fucking
1. The first glance
This is when you first set your eyes on the person, and you realise you are interested in having them in your bed, or at least get their number and hook up some other time so you can take things further.
Try not to focus at this point, steal short glances either directly or preferably from the corner of your eye. Once you are sure you like what you see, take a look around you to be sure other people are not going to be focused on watching your eye fuck the lady or guy you are interested in( you could get into trouble if your target is there with a partner and you get caught).
If there are lots of people around, you might feel safe because you can quickly take your stare somewhere else if you suspect you are being watched by someone who could whoop your ass for trying to go home with someone you didn’t come out with.
And if it’s just the both of you, you might need a little more courage just to stand up and go sit in front of your target and get friendly.
2. Securing a vantage point
It is imperative that you are comfortable, so you need to close the distance between the both of you if you are seating far away. You want your target to notice you and probably communicate back so you should move closer.
Also, if you are seating too close, it might become awkward so you might want to shift back a little. Make sure the distance is about a table away or just close enough for you to be sighted by the other person
3. Looking the second time
Taking a second glance comes after you have put yourself in a comfortable position. Your aim at this point is to get noticed and hit the nail on the head. Chances are, once you take the second glance your target’s eyes will meet yours.
If that happens don’t be too scared to keep up the stare, but not for longer than a few seconds. Look away and smile to yourself. You might take the second glance and realise that your target was already looking at you. If that is the case, it’s your lucky day. Nothing is more comfortable than getting involved with someone who is equally interested in you.
4. Be brave
It is normal to want to back down when you notice the other person was staring at you before you raised your head to take the second glance, but this is the point where you need to take the initiative and engage your target.
People love to be the centre of other people’s attention so if someone knows you are interested in them; they might begin to develop an interest in you too. Make eye contact and try hard not to lose heart. If your target finds you creepy, they would only change the sitting position or walk away, so it’s safe to take your chances.
5. Start a sexy staring contest
This is the third glance, but it is different from the first two glances because you are communicating for real this time. Once your target starts staring back at you, activate your sexy mode and make seductive eye contact so that they get the message.
Depending on how well you do it, your target might want to play along, and that’s how the eye fucking begins. Pay attention to their reaction, if your target starts eye fucking you back, it’s favourable. If your target doesn’t act comfortable, that’s your cue to back off.
6. Smile
Smiling is always useful when it comes to giving off a friendly vibe. Sexily smile at your target. Do not give the mischievous Garfield grin, that’s just very suspicious and creepy. Try to give that toothless smile that says “I want you” while your eyes are still engaged in the staring contest.
7. Body Language
For ladies, when they are eye-fucking, they usually engage in lip biting as it communicates their intentions clearly and could give their male target an erection almost immediately.
For guys, assuming a posture that suggests confidence or just biting your teeth together while you smile and probably chew on something with your mouth closed could make a lady who loves oral sex wet instantly. Make sure to bring your “A” game when it comes to body language in eye fucking.
8. Meet up
Take your time to strip each other naked with your eyes and enjoy every minute of the fucking eye period. But you know you have to turn the distance sex into something physical to take the cue to get close to your target.
Meet up with them or signal them to meet you outside my simple nodding your head to the side and getting up. Once they reach you in a place where you can talk, it gets easier from there on.
Eye fucking is a beautiful experience, and it doesn’t have to be with a stranger all the time. You might want to spice your relationship up by engaging in eye fucking with your partner when you are out.
It is usually exciting and makes sex more fun when you both leave the presence of others. Consider it a form of role play and make sure to continue in that character once you get behind closed doors.
